“I don’t want to see my wife and children suffer because of me anymore.
I want them to be happy.”
These are the words he told me as we sat and revisited his past mistakes.
When I first met Ali years ago, I knew him as the man who beat his daughters. He once heated a knife and used it to burn his daughter’s legs. He broke another daughter’s arm. He even beat his pregnant wife and caused the death of their unborn child.
He was an alcoholic. He needed help.
When his children were taken away, he and I had a lot of chats. We talked about the right way to treat his wife and children. We talked about abuse and its devastating consequences. We set goals together.
I never saw a change. I completely gave up on him and didn’t foresee him ever changing. My hope ran out and we didn’t see each other again.
I ran into Ali last week.
Not the old Ali. A completely different Ali.
He doesn’t drink anymore. He doesn’t beat his wife. His kids are older now — they work during the week and come home on the weekends.
When I asked him what had sparked his change of life, he said that our conversations years ago helped him recently to see the damage he was inflicting. Who knew that my words would impact his daily life choices? Words I don’t even remember saying.
In a world that is constantly telling us that people don’t change, I see something very different.
There is always hope.
My name is Sia and I run Freedom Restoration Project. We coach parents on how to provide a safe and healthy environment for their family, while offering much-needed counselling for women and children who have suffered abuse. Partner with us!